Find the small wins with speaking proud!
When I coach clients to embrace public speaking, they often associate it with high-stake events with lots of people in front of them and a tremendous fear of pressure to perform well.
There are some individuals who are naturals at this. The fear factor is quite low on their barometer. The reason is because they are accomplished in this skill. For most of us, the idea of getting up in front of an audience, even if it is only a business meeting where we know the people, and speaking on a subject for even 5 minutes can bring out the voice of judgement, and we feel the heat rising up the back our necks. As a public speaking coach, I know this only too well. I will be speaking at an event in two weeks, and I know for sure my face will flush red.
The good news is that fear and overwhelm can be overcome, it is a skill that can be learned. In fact, once you get started, with repetition, it can become a part of your business skill set. But you do have to get started!
Building Confidence Requires Practice
That means that you need to practice building confidence. Let’s use the analogy of learning to play the piano. Once you know how to get the notes in the right order, and read the music, then it is a question of practicing until you get it right. But guess what? Once you know that you can do it, it becomes easy, and you can’t wait to learn the next piece.
Learning public speaking skills is much the same. It’s a step-by-step process.
I always suggest find the small wins in your week. Clients are often surprised when I share with them that a small win could be to have a short conversation in the corridor with a senior member of staff whom you normally avoid.
Or standing at a train station, the train is delayed, and be the person in the crowd, who in front of everyone, asks the conductor why is the train delayed?
You may be in the canteen at break time, and somebody makes a remark about the new product that your company is going to produce. Provided that you are up to speed with the information about it, you can use that chance to speak about it in front of a small group from a position of authority. Not only does this give you a chance to practice, but it will also impress your colleagues. They will look up to you.
So, yes, public speaking can be scary but start small, and remember, speaking proud is not reserved only for conferences, and running online presentations. Building inner confidence with speaking can happen in every conversation you have, both personally, and professionally. In recent years some of my proudest speak proud moments have come from difficult conversations, asking for pay rises, and having the courage to say ‘No’, instead of ‘Yes’. Speaking proud is not a performance, it's a state of mind, that you can start to work with from today.
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